TALKING ABOUT PROBLEM GAMBLING
Common Concerns
People who want to approach a friend or family member who they suspect might have a gambling problem are often hesitant to do so because they're afraid it will have a negative outcome. Some of the common concerns people have are listed below.
I’m worried that if I talk to my friend or family member about their gambling, they’ll be offended.
It’s quite understandable that you would worry about offending someone who you suspect might have a gambling problem by trying to talk to them about it. That’s why it’s important to gather what information you can about problem gambling beforehand and approach the person in the right way. Remember: Don't accuse or preach when discussing the problem. Just enquire, talk about the facts, express concern, and offer support.
What if I’m just imagining things— that the person is just having a good time—and I’ll ruin it for them?
This is indeed an important consideration: You certainly don't want to be suggesting to someone that they have a gambling problem when in fact they don't. Take a close look at other parts of this website, assess your friend or family member’s behaviour against the signs of a gambling problem, and ask others you can trust for their perceptions. And remember: If you think there’s a problem, there probably is.
I’m not an expert: How can I solve someone else’s problem?
You’re not expected to solve someone else’s problem: The best you can do is get informed, ask questions, express concern, and be supportive. If your friend or family member has a problem with gambling, you can only assist them in dealing with it—you cannot solve the problem for them.
If I don’t say anything, won't the person eventually stop gambling on their own?
While some people can solve their gambling problems on their own, most need the support of family and friends, a professional counsellor, or support group. Changing behavior can be extremely difficult and require a considerable about of time, effort, and support from various sources.
Information about treatment centres, help line numbers and Gamblers Anonymous.
